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WHAT IS LOVE? - a notebook that combines psychology and Zen by Virginia Zaharieva


This is a notebook with a hole through which a question is shining.

This is a tool for focusing and self-regulation.

This is a notebook that combines psychology and Zen.


For those who love creating.

For those who seek their authenticity.

For those who wish to be authors.


In order  the question to be continuously available without having to copy it from page to page.

The hole with a question permanently turns the writers back to themselves. It serves those who want to formulate Their Important Question without any mediators.

The hole with a question is an anchor in the stormy sea of ​​everyday life. It holds coherence and direction in the din of information.

The hole is the vertical, spiritual time. Space, time and writer coincide in this hole.

The hole brings a sense of emptiness in the Buddhist sense: emptiness filled with the charms of the unmanifested.

The question provokes a sense of reality, a sense of presence here and now.

The question is a friend. It’s here so that you are not alone as you write.

The question is broader than the statement and it attacks all hard-set perceptions.

Staying with a question brings us to examine our image from the outside, peeling down the roles and situations to which we tend to attach. It works for our de-attachment. It leads to the core which connects us to something much bigger.

This notebook is a tool for taking distance from the literalness of the daily routine. The question contains energy. It breaks the pages and examines life.

The constant presence of a question or statement brings added value to writing.

The question wears out all the chatter, depletes the rational answers and penetrates into the intuition and the subconscious. Writing next to a question is expanding on the inside, being honest.

Besides, you may not spoil the question with an answer.

Answers get tired.

Just like questions do.

The foam of the days spills over the pages of this notebook. The experiences, the secrets, all you believe you are. Until the question disappears. And YOU appear.

YOU are the answer.

History of the creation of the notebook with a hole:

I have been writing up diaries since I remember. It’s clear that I’m a real maniac in every detail: form, paper, cover, pencil, violet ink! I touch them as living beings. I bring life into them. My notebooks sit tightly gathered in huge boxes, one decade per box. I use their pages to return to myself when I’m lost.

So in October 2009, while flying in an airplane, I was gnawing on the question: “Who is the master?”. Answering page after page, I had to keep copying the question in order to be able to see it all the time. So there, above the clouds, it occurred to me that instead of copying the question I could simply make a hole in the notebook and write it on the bottom.

So I started drilling holes in my notebooks, answering to the question in the hole or just writing what interested me at the moment.


Usually the people who enter the therapist’s office are lost – they don’t know what they want, they have forgotten who they are. In order to begin from somewhere, we need a picture of what it is. Questions appear in the process of working. Formulating the customer’s important question is the core of the therapy.


“Who am I?”, “Who is in?”, “What is love?”, “Who is the master?”

“What separates me from my spontaneity?”

The question must be sufficiently broad and positively formulated.

It isn’t recommended to include negation unless you have targeted to consciously work over an area that does not work. For example, “Why do I keep postponing?” leads to “What prevents me from acting?” which can be transformed into: “What am I like when I’m brave?” or “What am I like when I act?” and you can continue keeping the diary about the statement “I do!” or the question: “What is the new thing that I do?”.

Another example: If you ask the question “Why am I always broke?” or “What am I like when I have no money?”, then you can continue with “What do I spend money on?” or “What am I like when I have money?” and then you can continue writing about the statement “I contain” or the question “What is abundance?”. You can also write about the statement: “I am rich with…” or “I have enough.”

“Staying” with the question means that the customers have to often ask it to themselves between the sessions. They literally take up the role of their own therapist until the answer finds them.

That’s how the notebook with a question turns out to be a wonderful tool for self-regulation:

It goes around the client’s resistance and protections.

It wins the client on the side of our mutual work.

It provides valuable observations.

It accompanies elegantly the psychotherapy.

And it can also mark the end of the psychotherapy.

It leads to a grown-up Self that doesn’t need so much external attention, as it already generously gives it to itself, before re-turning it to the world again.

Sooner or later the question is forgotten. What remains is a refreshed sense of centering. Because it’s not about the question or the answers. The important thing is that the ability to communicate with ourselves has been restored: communication with both the Great and the Insignificant self.


Виргиния Захариева има 30 години опит във всички жанрове на журналистиката и публицистиката. Тя пише, лови звуци, изследва дебрите на психичното. Създателка е на аудио диска 'Български природни звуци' и диска 'The hoise of meduza - sounds for creation'

Завършила е българска литература и психология в Софийски университет 'Климент Охридски'.

Специализирала е аналитична психотерапия в Швейцария. Има собствена практика като психотерапевт. Работи в областта на индивидуалната и груповата терапия.

Главен редактор е на P.S - първото джендър списание в България.

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